There’s a post of this same name, just out. It’s about the burden an unforgiven wound can place on a person’s life, and it poses some question about dumping the burden. This thread is for discussion and questions. Bear in mind that the geezer is in no way a shrink or a counsellor. His job is to ask questions, not to answer them. He’s not an expert, tho hopefully there will be an expert or two on this thread. The geezer is like you, just another seeker trying to find a way.
Others may hate you, but they will never will win. Unless you hate them too. Then, you destroy yourself. -- Richard Nixon
Nixon said that as he was leaving the White House. He had learned too late that vengeance, driven by paranoia, can take down even the most powerful man on earth. Vengeance is the flip side of a failure to forgive. We think that we’re punishing the person who hurt us. But really we’re punishing ourselves and perpetuating the hurt.
Oh boy, what an example! I found myself feeling pleased that the man was able to have this insight and maybe as a result end his life a sweeter note. Does this feeing constitute a forgiveness for his various abuses? Fine with the geezer if it does.
Others may hate you, but they will never will win. Unless you hate them too. Then, you destroy yourself. -- Richard Nixon
Nixon said that as he was leaving the White House. He had learned too late that vengeance, driven by paranoia, can take down even the most powerful man on earth. Vengeance is the flip side of a failure to forgive. We think that we’re punishing the person who hurt us. But really we’re punishing ourselves and perpetuating the hurt.
Oh boy, what an example! I found myself feeling pleased that the man was able to have this insight and maybe as a result end his life a sweeter note. Does this feeing constitute a forgiveness for his various abuses? Fine with the geezer if it does.
Thanks for sending, Tom.
Hi John,
How true... forgiveness leads to our own healing
All best wishes .
Jimmy